IELTS speaking test Part 3 questions and sample answers - how children learn to help





Part 3 questions

Children Learning to Help


In what ways do parents want their children to help them (around the home)?

I suppose it depends on how old the child is, I can think of a couple of examples; traditionally parents might encourage their children to help do some simple chores around the home such as helping to prepare for meals. This might include helping with some simple food preparation tasks or putting the plates, knives, forks and spoons and other things on the table. Also, parents usually try and get their children to tidy their rooms once they are old enough to manage it, or they will teach younger children to at least put their toys away after playing with them.

Do parents in your country expect their adult children to give them help?

When the children are grown up it depends a lot on how close the family is and where the children live. Adult children who still live at home are expected to help out with certain things at home. It might be cooking, cleaning, washing or anything else that needs done. Or if the family have animals, the children may take over looking after them rather than leave it for their parents to do. Another example, and I have a friend who does this, is helping with younger siblings, she helps look after her little brother who is still a small child. She does lots of things with him like collecting him from school and helping him with his homework.

In general, who do you think is more willing to help with the housework, boys or girls?

In my country it’s more traditional that girls help with it than boys. Boys aren’t really encouraged much to help with such things, although some do it. I think if there are maybe physically demanding tasks to do then boys are usually more willing to get involved, they seem to like that sort of thing better than girls.

In general, who do you think is more willing to help others, boys or girls?

Generally, girls like helping others more. They seem to have a natural instinct for it whereas boys are more competitive, so helping someone else isn’t always their first choice, but it depends on who the other person is. There’s a big difference between helping a family member, helping a friend at college or university and helping someone you hardly know. I think boys are more likely to help their brothers, sisters and friends than other people they maybe don’t know so well.

Do you think children naturally want to help others, (or do they need to be taught this)?

No, I don’t think it’s anything natural - it’s something we are taught is a good thing to do. If you watch two young children playing, they will often be very competitive and even fight over certain toys. It’s the parents or teachers who teach children that it’s better to share things and help each other. Eventually it becomes a natural instinct as an adult to help someone if we can see that they are having difficulty.

How can parents teach their children to help others?

Like most things, children learn by example so if parents make sure that their children see them helping other people, their children should learn that it is normal and expected of them as they grow up.

How can parents teach their children the value of helping others?

There are many children’s stories about helping, sometimes it’s friends helping each other, sometimes it’s animals, like in many Disney movies. It can be difficult for parents to try and explain why people help each other to a young child, but through stories and movies children can see quite quickly the advantages of having friends, helping people and many other aspects of life. Parents should show their children that helping is a good thing in as many ways as possible, through their own actions, through stories and other examples.

Do you think children can learn about helping from other children?

Yes, it’s possible, for example, if a child receives some help from another child and they feel good about getting that help because it enables them to do something they were having difficulty with, maybe they will want to try and help another child themselves in a similar way. Helping people makes the person giving the help and the person receiving the help feel good so when a child experiences that it should reinforce the idea that helping in general is a good thing to do.